sssshale:

kyuubified:

ace-feminist:

brunhiddensmusings:

ouch-that-hurts:

“But your abuse made you kind”

I was always kind. My abuse tested my kindness and you are testing my patience.

‘no, my abuse made me a spineless jellyfish living in perpetual fear of standing up for myself, but thank you for framing that as a positive thing you like about me’

“I am a good person despite my abuse, not because of it”

Abuse made me hypersensitive to other people’s emotions while neglecting my own boundaries and comfort because I’m afraid of upsetting someone or having them lash out at me.

I was already strong. I was already smart. I was already empathetic. Anything I learned over time comes from me and not from my abuse or my abuser. Fuck anyone who asks survivors to give abusers even a singular ounce of credit for their own attributes. Literally eat a bag of shit covered dicks and never speak again.