howtolivewithadhd:

I need more support for bi girls who are in a straigth relationship and have never dated, had sex with or kissed another woman.

We are valid. I am valid. It isn’t because I haven’t experimented that I don’t know what attracts me sexually.

To take my own personal experiences: I had a giant crush on my (very, very straigth) best friend in high school. I was very much attracted to her. I have feelings of sexual attraction to the female body. I never kissed a single girl, and since I am currently in a straigth relationship in which I am EXTREMELY happy, and in which we both intend, if everything goes well, to spend the rest of our lives together, I probably never WILL experience being intimate with another woman, unless my relationship falls apart.

And like, this doesn’t make me a slut. I have talked about it with boyfriend a lot. He knows about my sexuality and even told me he’d be open to let me experiment. Thing is, I am a VERY,VERY loyal person. Heck, if I have a dream where I end up kissing or dating or having sex with someone else, thats usually how I end up lucid dreaming, cause I know I’d NEVER cheat on my man. And if I don’t ,I wake up from those dreams feeling distressed and like I ACTUALLY cheated on him. I value fidelity. The fact that I haven’t experimented with women doesn’t mean I’ll cheat on my man on the first occasion I get to frolick with a lady.

It also doesn’t mean that I am straight, or that I don’t belong in the LGBTQ community. I might have never had a relationship that wasn’t with a member of the opposite sex, IT DOESN’T MAKE ME STRAIGHT. Experiences do not define your sexuality, YOU DO. Yes, experiences can help you put a name on what you feel, help you classify yourself into a category if you so desire. But they aren’t the single things that define your sexuality.

TL;DR: BI GIRLS WHO NEVER WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN ARE STILL A VALID PART OF THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY. EXPERIENCES DO NOT DEFINE YOUR SEXUALITY.

(Ps: To follow up on the whole “Experiences don’t define your sexuality”, my boyfriend has kissed a guy before. Does that mean he’s gay? Does that have to mean he’s bi? Not even! He’s like the straigthest person I know.)